I’ve encountered victims of Complicated Grief Syndrome many times throughout my life but never considered that my twin sister and I were affected by it. Why? Because for our entire lives we have used compartmentalization and disassociation to “put away” things we cannot deal with in order to function and live normally. Many people are […]
Read MoreNearly a year ago I got the call my father was dying. Cindy and I knew we would get the debt and none of the assets. That’s our lives. We always get the shitty end of the stick. In fact, we expect it. After getting my client married at TDCJ Terrell Unit, taking her and […]
Read MoreThis past week has been emotionally exhausting. Thursday at Harris Hospital, Virginia didn’t even recognize me. I was crushed. Shocked. Heartbroken. After nearly 37 years since we first met when I was a contract employee at CSC working in Security, Virginia was the mother figure I had never had. Saying goodbye to her will also […]
Read MoreTomorrow I’m marrying a couple I had planned to marry at TDCJ Ferguson Unit. Over the next three months I’m marrying several other couples who have finally made it beyond prison walls. Couples who have made their love story last. Dana contacted me regarding February and her loved one paroling to a Fort Worth transitional […]
Read MoreI’m OCD. I make lists. I review these lists over and over again. But even I cannot predict people. Since Wednesday I’ve been on the road bouncing from one event to the next city while on conference calls with the kids or my clients. On Thursday, I traveled back to DFW to meet Cindy after […]
Read MoreWe live in an opinionated society but do the opinions of others really have a direct bearing on your life or mine? Probably not. You can please some of the people some of the time but you can’t please all of the people all of the time. I choose to ignore “Negative Nancy’s” on a […]
Read MoreJuggling my schedule to accommodate clients who have been waiting for Federal prisons to reopen, I had a call Monday from someone wanting to marry “as soon as possible.” Her reason was that her fiancée would be shipping out today to Anderson AFB in Guam. I took a moment to double check my schedule and […]
Read MoreLast night the funeral of Bobby Brooks Caffey took place at Hawkins Funeral Home in Boyd, Texas. His daughter, Debbie cried as she told me how many months it had been since she had seen him. Her grief expanded describing phone calls from her father begging her to come pick him up. She was helpless […]
Read MoreI’m always concerned when on of my clients sends me a text or DM that reads “there’s something I need to talk to you about. Are you busy?” I always drop everything to immediately respond to messages like this because I can feel their sense of urgency. I’m everyone’s mom. I’m always available to my […]
Read MoreIt’s not uncommon for me to get a “problem call” on wedding day. In fact, it’s common and a regular occurrence. For two months now these “problem calls” have been rolling in. They aren’t coming from my clients in numerous states marrying an inmate either. Instead they are coming from my “traditional clients.” Standard bookings […]
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